Your Kids Deserve a Plan That Actually Works for Them

Custody disputes are emotionally intense — and the decisions made now will shape your children's lives for years. I help parents build parenting plans that protect their relationship with their kids, hold up in court, and avoid unnecessary conflict.

If You're in a Custody Dispute, You Already Know How High the Stakes Are

You're not sure how California courts actually decide custody — and the other parent's attorney is already filing paperwork
You're worried that one bad decision now could cost you time with your children for years
You're trying to do right by your kids, but you're running out of patience and emotional bandwidth
You're not being unreasonable. Protecting your relationship with your children is worth fighting for — and it's worth doing right.

What's at Stake in Your Custody Case

How your custody arrangement is structured now will affect your children's day-to-day life — and your role in it — for years to come.

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A Custody Attorney Who Understands What the Court Actually Looks For

I know how disorienting it feels to have the most important relationship in your life playing out in a legal process. My job is to cut through the noise, help you understand what matters, and build a strategy focused on your children's wellbeing — not just legal maneuvering.
I've handled custody cases ranging from straightforward parenting plan agreements to high-conflict disputes and international abduction matters. I've taught family law at California Western School of Law and serve as a County Hearing Officer — so I understand how judges evaluate custody decisions, not just how to argue in front of them.

Here's How We Build Your Custody Strategy

No guessing. No empty promises. Just a clear strategy and someone who shows up prepared.

Have Questions About Your Custody Case?

I'll give you honest answers about what to expect and help you figure out the right next step for your situation.

What to Know About Child Custody in California

California courts divide custody into two types: legal custody (who makes decisions about the child’s education, health, and welfare) and physical custody (where the child lives). Both can be sole or joint. Joint legal custody — where both parents share decision-making — is common even when physical custody is primarily with one parent. Joint physical custody means the child spends significant time with both parents, though not necessarily equal time. The court’s standard in custody decision is the best interest of the child. Factors include the child’s age and health, each parent’s history of caregiving, the child’s relationship with each parent, stability of home environment, and — for older children — the child’s own preference. California courts do not automatically favor mothers over fathers. What matters is the actual history of involvement in the lives of your children. If a father has been the primary caregiver, the court takes that seriously. Custody orders can be modified after the fact if there’s a significant change in circumstances — such as a parent relocating, a change in work schedule, or concerns about the child’s welfare.

Quick Facts
COMMON SITUATIONS

How I Approach Custody Cases

Child Custody
I met Mr. Aguilar at the courthouse. I saw him defend his client’s position in front of the judge and he won. As he was walking out, I asked him for his business card. I called him as soon as I left the courthouse and he was able to give me a consultation the same day. I hired him right away based on his courtroom performance. I ended up getting my children back full time. Mr. Aguilar was in the right place at the right time when I met him.
Lisset
Child Custody
My ex and children live in California. but I live out of state and could not travel to San Diego for the various court hearings. Mr, Aguilar arranged for me to appear over the telephone every time the court needed me to appear. Mr.Aguilar kept me informed about the status of my case and promptly notified me of any developments. I saved a lot of money by not having to travel to California for the various hearings. I truly believe the outcome of my case would have been the same even if I were present for the court hearings. I learned to trust Mr. Aguilar during the divorce/custody process. Mr. Aguilar really made sure that my rights as a parent were preserved despite the fact that I live out of state.
JC

Frequently Asked Questions About Child Custody

Serving Clients Throughout Southern California

Custody cases are filed in the superior court of the county where the child resides. Contact us to confirm jurisdiction for your situation.

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I'll give you a clear picture of what California courts look for, what your realistic options are, and what a strong parenting plan actually requires. No pressure — just straight answers.
This page is for general informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Custody outcomes depend on the specific facts of each case.
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